Comments on: More on Mah-widge http://www.helenmartin.com/2006/05/04/more-on-mah-widge/ Witty brilliance from the lovely Bride of Martinstein Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:54:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: helen http://www.helenmartin.com/2006/05/04/more-on-mah-widge/#comment-1037 helen Fri, 05 May 2006 00:21:44 +0000 http://www.helenmartin.com/?p=107#comment-1037 <p>I hope I didn't sound unnecessarily negative in my prognosis. You had asked about actual rules and that might be one of the only ones we have; and to tell you the truth, it hasn't even come up in years. By now everyone is "our" friend, and most are couples anyway.</p> <p>Sounds like you're already on top of it. And if you are, and your beloved is happy, what more could you ask for?</p> <p>You know what would be the best of all worlds? If your wife-to-be becomes as close to your female friends as you are. (Being one with you is her fast track, if the chemistry is right.)</p> <p>And don't worry about long comments. I think you're interesting, and it's my blog - so there!</p> I hope I didn’t sound unnecessarily negative in my prognosis. You had asked about actual rules and that might be one of the only ones we have; and to tell you the truth, it hasn’t even come up in years. By now everyone is “our” friend, and most are couples anyway.

Sounds like you’re already on top of it. And if you are, and your beloved is happy, what more could you ask for?

You know what would be the best of all worlds? If your wife-to-be becomes as close to your female friends as you are. (Being one with you is her fast track, if the chemistry is right.)

And don’t worry about long comments. I think you’re interesting, and it’s my blog - so there!

]]> By: jeepish http://www.helenmartin.com/2006/05/04/more-on-mah-widge/#comment-1035 jeepish Thu, 04 May 2006 23:27:44 +0000 http://www.helenmartin.com/?p=107#comment-1035 <p>Indeed, a challenge. I believe having close friendships outside of a relationship (be it dating or marriage) is crucial. Your friends can give you feedback and advice that can help you be a better partner, or point out when you're being a pigheaded pain in the you-know-what.</p> <p>While the inter-gender nature of the friendships can pose a problem, I don't think it's insurmountable, given the right circumstances. You're absolutely right that the friendships will (and need to) change, but they won't ever dissolve away (I hope). I try my best to make sure I'm completely open with my friendships, and include my beloved in anything as often as possible.</p> <p>There's a whole wealth of knowledge I've gained from my female friends that I never, ever would have gotten from my male friends. I think this has made me particularly different -- in a good way (if I can do a little ego boosting for a moment).</p> <p>I should -- and could -- write more, but this is your blog, not mine. ;) Just imagine more of the same, but deeper and with perhaps more clarity.</p> <p>Have I mentioned that you and Ken married well?</p> Indeed, a challenge. I believe having close friendships outside of a relationship (be it dating or marriage) is crucial. Your friends can give you feedback and advice that can help you be a better partner, or point out when you’re being a pigheaded pain in the you-know-what.

While the inter-gender nature of the friendships can pose a problem, I don’t think it’s insurmountable, given the right circumstances. You’re absolutely right that the friendships will (and need to) change, but they won’t ever dissolve away (I hope). I try my best to make sure I’m completely open with my friendships, and include my beloved in anything as often as possible.

There’s a whole wealth of knowledge I’ve gained from my female friends that I never, ever would have gotten from my male friends. I think this has made me particularly different — in a good way (if I can do a little ego boosting for a moment).

I should — and could — write more, but this is your blog, not mine. ;) Just imagine more of the same, but deeper and with perhaps more clarity.

Have I mentioned that you and Ken married well?

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